Things I SHOULD Have Put On My Baby Registry

Finding out you are pregnant is so very exciting. Once the initial excitement has died down and everything is going well you can start to think about what you might put on your baby registry. You soon realize this is a totally involved task. There are so many baby products on the market, most claiming to be ‘must-have’. With as many products come as many articles telling you what you really need. I decided to write my own version of what I really DID need/use and if I had to register all over again, exactly what I would choose! If like me, you are rendered clueless and overwhelmed by baby gear then look no further!

Things I Should Have Put On My Baby Registry

 

I quickly found out that I didn’t truly need an awful lot of what I received on my registry. I still put them to use so friends and family’s purchases were not in vain but there are certainly things I know I need not worry about if I was blessed with a second baby. Conversely, I discovered that things I received without requesting or things I purchased later on turned out to be the things I used and relied on the most! Those are the things I SHOULD have put on my registry.

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Here’s why these items became my holy grail baby products:

Muslin Burp Cloths

Baby’s spit up. A LOT or a little, either way you’ll be glad of these good sized burpies to save yours and baby’s outfit and minimize the laundry headache. Not to mention, they are the softest material!

Baby Nest

The Dock-A-Tot is pricey. There plenty of small business’ out there offering similar products. Either way, a baby nest is an excellent way to safely co-sleep, avoid traveling with a travel crib and in my experience, keep baby asleep longer.

Mamaroo

I was kindly gifted the mamaroo by my SIL and it’s a dream! The various gentle motions and adjustable seat position grow perfectly with baby. This thing is the reason I can get things done. It’s also been responsible for many 3-4 hour naps!

Baby K-Tan Carrier

I have a few carriers all serving different purposes (and people!) but the K-tan is my go-to for soothing a fussy babe! It’s no-tie which means no messing with yards of fabric and makes for a quick fix to an intense meltdown. Whether it’s for a trip to the shops or just doing something around the house – you get the luxury of TWO hands. I know,  a wonderful thought, right?

Velcro Swaddle

I bought my swaddles when baby was 3 months old! She didn’t enjoy her muslin swaddles since a very young age but I was struggling to keep her asleep longer than 20 minutes during the day. First nap all swaddled up in one of these and she went out for 3 hours!

Sound Machine

Oh glorious white noise! If you have other kids (or a noisy dog and husband!) you need this to drown out the sounds of…life! The one I bought, has multiple sound options, a night light and a projector with two slides!

Nose Frida

This is the grossest thing ever. I mean. SNOTS! I had no idea babies had so many of them, or is it just mine? While the hospital issued nasal aspirator is effective, it can take a while and is more of a torture device due to how long it can take. I wished I had a Nose Frida so many times.

Changing Clutch

Such a simple idea and yet so valuable to me. Take it on short outings without taking  everything but the kitchen sink. Use it while backseat-changing on roadtrips. Use it in the diaper bag for daytrips. Use it at home on the bed for a newborn.  Stick it in your handbag….it’s just the best!

Grabbing Toys

After the three month mark baby will get such a fun little personality, it’s so exciting to see them becoming interested in their surroundings and trying to grab things. Stock up on a couple of grabbing, development toys to feed their curiosity!

To regain some control of your sanity (because let’s face it, baby takes over) during the newborn stage I suggest you put these on your registry, PRONTO! 
See also, my top tips to lighten the load at home after baby’s arrival.

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The Newborn Stage Shockers (You Thought You Were Ready For)

Pregnancy is full of advice – welcome advice, unsolicited advice, good advice, questionable advice. It’s also full of anticipation. The type of anticipation I’ve never experienced and I’m an anxious person! Time both flies and stands still and although you expect a baby, you don’t yet have a baby so you have a lot of time alone with your thoughts. While ruminating on worries and fears isn’t good for you at this time, it is a great time to get ready and research some of those things everyone whose ever been pregnant is telling you.

The Newborn Stage Shockers You Thought You Were Ready For

So you and google sit for many hours together building your skill-set for motherhood. With weeks to go you’ve got this! You’re ready for the explosion of love. You’re ready to be awake for the rest of your life. You’re ready to hold your little bundle and be everything she needs. You’re ready for the towering laundry and messier home.

But here’s the thing…

No. You. Aren’t.

The reality, the shocking reality is that nothing and I mean, NOTHING can prepare you for the impending shift in your head, your heart, your home – your life.

Birth

I was lucky enough to have an amazing, positive birth experience despite having to undergo a c-section for a scary reason. Whether your birth is memorable for being amazing, traumatic or just miraculous in general it is a life altering experience and I’m not sure the roller coaster of emotion connected to it can ever be written down and communicated effectively.

The Love

Oh, the love. Indescribable, earth shattering love. How something so little can reduce you to such mush is beyond my comprehension. You created perfection and the wave of awe is quite overwhelming. I would look at my baby with tears in my eyes for the first few weeks. I could not look at her without crying or wanting to. I’m sure hormones had something to do with that also…

Sleep Deprivation

We all know. We KNOW new parents (and seasoned parents) get no sleep. We’re so ready! Ha. Haaaaaaaa. Exhaustion is evil. Exhaustion makes you think horrible things, have a short temper and overall be the more gremlin version of your usual self. If sleep is for the weak then I’m waving my white flag. I AM WEAK. There is no shame in craving your sleep with a newborn. You cannot pour from an empty cup and with a newborn your cup is usually very empty. Except your coffee cup, that’s always full of the coffee you no longer get to finish!

Breastfeeding

For me, this was the biggest shock to the system even over the loss of all sleep. I was not prepared, not remotely and this came out of nowhere and threw my whole world upside down. I thought I had researched it to a tee. To this day I am struggling with it but determined to persevere. Nursing is exhausting, especially at the beginning. It drained the life and soul out of me and made me feel like a total failure. I am not ashamed to say that it has not been the wonderful ethereal experience I was led to believe it would be.

The Loss of Yourself

Let me be clear here. Missing who you were does not make you selfish. It makes you a human struggling with change. When a newborn hits your home like a tornado and pjs, no make-up and four day old topknots become your new look it can be very overwhelming. You start to feel like you exist only to sustain your child and clean. It is pure survival mode with little else to spare and it can make you very, very sad. Do not feel guilty for mourning the loss of your old life.

Time

Savor every second because the time flies. Cliche or sad, terrifying reality? Both! I feel like I am outside my body looking at someone holding down a fast forward button while watching mine and baby’s life play out on screen. It will make you sad to see how quickly your baby grows up. It is of course wonderful to see them develop but equally scary to realize that these precious moments are so fleeting.

So my advice is to STOP preparing ‘to be ready’ for it all. Because you just never will. You can do the legwork for motherhood but it takes that baby in your arms to really activate your inner Mama Bear. That’s when the real learning begins. And it’s powerful.

Check out my post with some tips to cope with the newborn overwhelm.

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Newborn Hacks To Lighten The Load

I’ve had this Motherhood gig for just over 12 weeks now, I don’t claim to know it all. In fact most days I feel like a complete and utter failure. If ever there was anything to etch away at your self esteem it’s a newborn baby. For the most part the inside of my head is an abyss of self doubt.

Did I do that right? Is she getting enough food? Is that pain because of the way I fed her? Did she just drink bath water? Great now she’s choking on it.

Newborn Hacks to lighten the load

The first few weeks were hard, I have no shame in admitting how much I struggled (let me clarify that I was NO less grateful for my daughter). It’s a difficult mix of emotions to process. I was drowning in depression, completely overwhelmed with the new work load, incredibly guilty for all of that but also bursting with love for my newborn baby. How is that possible all at once?

I was surviving not thriving and it was making me so sad that by being so preoccupied with the negative was making me miss that time with my baby. By the time all my family help was gone and it was just me and her, things got better. That’s not to say that help wasn’t productive or required – it was. It was just coincidental that at that time my fog lifted and I found my feet as a mother. Since then we have been BFFs and I love every moment of Motherhood.

During my most difficult times in the early days the smallest things would have helped me a lot but I just wasn’t thinking clearly. You may read this list and think ‘duh, that’s obvious’ and maybe so but to me it wasn’t. If this list helps anyone have an easier day then my job is done.

Diapers, Diapers Everywhere!

If possible, have multiple changing areas. Or at least one downstairs as well as up. Stock up your changing stations BEFORE you have the baby (I did not and had an actual meltdown having to set up diapers and wipes at 22.00 after arriving home from the hospital – yes it was THAT late, don’t ask!)

Zipideedooda!

Avoid outfits with buttons. WHY do teeny tiny newborn outfits have real buttons, not even snaps, real life buttons?! So silly! For the first few weeks try to find snap onesies or sleep suits with zips.

Dressing Down

Utilize the shoulder flaps on bodysuits. Most babies are not fans of pulling stuff over their heads. Plus you’re being mindful of the soft spots. Roll the onesie downward and even pull it up that way. Also, roll it down in the event of any poop-splosion!

Stock-Take

The moment you come home from an outing with baby re-stock the baby bag with any item you used while out. ALWAYS make sure there’s a spare onesie, outfit and pair of socks replaced after use. And wipes, dear Lord don’t forget to replace the wipes. What a horror show…

Bib-ity, Bobity, Burp

Use bibs and keep burp cloths EVERYWHERE. Even while nursing, use bibs to catch spit-up and save the outfit. I do this not because I’m so fussy that the outfit might get dirty but because it saves a ton of laundry and prevents those adorable little outfits from shrinking due to excessive washing. Unfortunately no bib or burp cloth can prevent what may or may not come out the other end…

Puke Prevention

Change baby before feeding. Yes I know, I know baby may need a fresh diaper right after feeding but if he/she doesn’t then you don’t have to put them flat down and risk throwing it all back up.

New babies are hard work! However, nothing can compare to the joy they bring. If you’re drowning in overwhelm don’t be afraid to reach out for help, if that help is unavailable then sit back and leave the dishes dirty and the floor unwashed.  You can vacuum at any time in your life but baby will only be this tiny today. It’s only a season!

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Hospital Bag Reality Check (What I Really Needed)

Remember that hospital bag checklist post I published before baby arrived? Here’s my update on how that stuff actually worked out for me. Clue: it didn’t.

Hospital Bag Reality Check

At 37 weeks and 5 days pregnant I went in for one of my last routine prenatal check-ups only to find that baby was coming via c-section later that SAME day. Luckily I had tentatively packed my bags but there was still an element of surprise I was sure I’d never experience. When you’re in shock like that, even adding the remaining 3 or 4 unpacked items can seem like a huge challenge. I mean, who is in the frame of mind right then to pack intelligently? I wasn’t. Although I did curl my hair because, insanity…

I arrived at the hospital three bags in tow. I left baby’s bag and my recovery bag in the car, bringing in with me a small tote containing the few essentials I would need for waiting. Because waiting is never fun. In that bag I had my tablet, phone charger, camera and personal essentials like lip balm, hand cream, hair ties, clips etc. Mistake number one! I didn’t need that bag. I was admitted at 3.45pm, gowned by 3.50pm and by 4.45 I was being prepped for surgery! That bag turned into an inconvenience that had to be looked after at the nurses station and despite the fact that I was about to have major surgery and meet my baby, I was worrying about my belongings being safe.

Fast forward one hour. I was wheeled out of the OR, into a recovery unit where I spent another hour being prodded, poked and watched for surgical complications. Once I was sent to my room, I relaxed. I met my nurse, took my pain medication and settled into the world’s comfiest bed with baby in my arms. WE STAYED LIKE THIS FOR 2 DAYS.

I wore hospital gowns for my entire stay, they were far more convenient for skin-to-skin and feeding. Baby wore a diaper the entire time as she was skin-to-skin practically the whole stay. She was swaddled in hospital blankets and literally the ONLY thing she used that I brought was a hat (the hospital also supplied me with 3). In fact, the hospital supplied me with EVERYTHING. Diapers, wipes, blankets, hats, nasal aspirator, bath wash, wash cloths, hair brush, you name it – it was there. I was so happy but also kicking myself for agonizing over the bag of goodies I had packed. Not to mention, baby was only 5lbs 11oz and to this day still hardly fits into anything I brought with me. I used nothing but deodorant and my toothbrush until I was going home when I got dressed for the first time! The hospital provided me with all of my recovery essentials including random stuff like body wash, fluffy socks and other toiletries.

Long story short, I can’t wait to have my second baby and rock up to labor & delivery with nothing but my handbag. Well not literally but I will be going full minimalist!

What I’d Bring The Second Time Around
  • Boppy Pillow
  • Baby Going Home Outfit
  • Mom Going Home Outfit
  • 1 Muslin Swaddle Blanket
  • 1 Newborn Hat
  • Basic toiletries
  • Camera

I mean it, that’s it!

What was your hospital stay like? Were you given everything or left to fend for yourself?

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6 Things To Do Before Baby’s Arrival

Whether it’s your first baby or your fifth, newborns come with overwhelmingly long to-do lists! When you are entirely preoccupied with everything you must do to prepare for baby’s arrival, it’s easy to forget the monotonous things that still need tending to in our day to day lives. Who wants to have a newborn baby, be overwhelmed by motherhood and realize you have to go to the store for toilet paper? Not this gal! With just a couple of weeks left before baby’s arrival, I’m sharing with you a list of things to get done that you will either have no time nor desire to do once baby arrives.

6 Things To Do Before Baby's Arrival

Your Hair!

This one isn’t the most important, I admit, but you deserve some pampering mama! It’s not easy waddling around feeling super uncomfortable 24/7. Get your hair done and relish your glamorous locks before they’re full of spit up on the regular. Not to mention, finding 2-3 hours for a hair appointment won’t be an option very soon!

Another good and important one would be to visit the dentist. Did you know that women are far more susceptible to dental problems during pregnancy? Now is the time for a check-up or even just a clean. Who knows when you might get time to go again.

Make Lists

This is the crazy organized part of me shining through. I have compiled a list of family and friends numbers who we want to share the news of baby’s arrival with immediately. This helps to avoid forgetting someone when you’re running on endorphins and won’t exactly be thinking of Uncle so and so who then gets super offended that he saw it on facebook. So make a list or y’know, tell everyone online and offend them all equally. Whatever your view is, it’s your baby!

A perhaps more achievable list to compile is a list of recipients for your Thank You cards as you receive registry gifts. I didn’t have a baby shower but we were still flooded with gifts from family and friends. For the love of God don’t fail to thank those who have sent you something. Rude! Even if you don’t do it as they arrive, be sure to send a birth announcement card with a thank you from baby attached.

Deep Clean

And by deep clean, I mean have your ever-so-gracious and helpful partner do it or hire someone. Don’t attempt all that bending and scrubbing alone. Have rooms/closets organized, carpets shampooed, windows cleaned and basically any big ‘Spring cleaning’ kind of task that more than likely will not get done with a newborn around.

Since January we have been taking a room or area of the house each week in which to deep clean blinds, window screen ledges, windows and baseboards. My husband has shampooed the carpets and we maintain a twice weekly quick and general cleaning of the whole house to keep it up.

Stockpile Household Necessities

2 days postpartum is not the time to find out you have run out of bin liners, toilet paper, disinfectant etc. Have everything stocked up that you use week to week. It’s not like bathroom cleaning spray is going to be at the forefront of your mom brain.

I went to my local Sam’s Club and stocked up on TP, paper towels, trash bags, body wash, razor blades, toothpaste, pantry staples such as cereals, pasta, grains, sauces & seasonings and also, a large freezer meat supply! I’m subscribed to diapers and other baby essentials on Amazon Prime so I can rest assured that will be taken care of. Basically all I will need weekly is fresh produce and dairy which my husband can help out with by quickly picking up on the way home from work.

Prepare The Car (+ Install Car Seat)

Keep your vehicle pet hair free when baby’s due date is getting close! We have an SUV that will be perfect for carting around baby’s gear but up until now it’s been the personal Uber car for our Labradoodle. Let’s just say he got WAY more lab than poodle and he sheds like a maniac every February or if he’s just been bathed. We’ve vacuumed out the car and installed the car seat to ensure no floating Doodle hairs end up on the baby. Ew. Poor Darby is now limited to riding in less style in my husband’s commute-to-work car. But he doesn’t mind once he ends up at the park, the beach or his friend Olaf’s house!

Prepare Freezer or Crockpot-Ready Meals

This one takes effort but oh goodness will it be worth it when you’re so tired you could crumple in a heap and cry! I’m a big supporter of the crockpot. That glorious device that I dump stuff into and can magically eat 8 hours later. Set aside an evening to plan your meals. Then spend a morning shopping for ingredients and the rest of the day assembling. Again, request help with this one. This is definitely a task where many hands make light work. Stock up on freezer bags and get to it. It’ll be so satisfying to see your meals for a solid month or more all taken of! You will be less tempted to order fast food. This is not only costly but not the healthiest for new mothers, especially if nursing your baby.

Bonus + Often Overlooked Task!

Make Arrangements for Pet Care

This gives me the most anxiety. Babies aren’t exactly known for their perfect, convenient arrival times on their exact due date. We’re lucky to have the world’s best puppy sitter! She’s flexible and ever so good to the Dood. Ensure you have someone lined up to take care of your pet. Decide whether they will take them to their place or stay at yours. These plans will be loose until the big day. Most people are understanding about the unknowns in this situation.

What’s important to you, to complete before baby’s arrival?

 

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What’s In My First-Time Mom Hospital Bag? + What’s NOT!

Not another hospital bag post, you cry! Yes. I’m not even sorry because reading so many helped me immensely! Way back in December, I had a slight baby scare which thankfully turned out fine! Being so unprepared for the hospital frightened me into seriously thinking about packing my hospital bag at just week 24. Since then, it was not fully packed but I made it my priority to buy and organize what I needed. This week (at 34 weeks) I finally packed it along with the changing bag for baby.

First Time Mom Hospital Bag

After reading quite literally EVERY ‘what to pack’ article in existence, I have packed some of the highly recommended hospital bag essentials along with the things I deem applicable to me.

Conscious that a c-section might be a possibility, I have packed enough for a more extended stay than most women will have. I have still kept those extra items practical and to a minimum.

The Highly Recommended Must-Haves

  • Baby Keepsake Book to get hand/foot prints and save the mess later!
  • Camera/Tablet/Phone + chargers
  • Boppy nursing pillow to practice good nursing posture
  • Healthy snacks for after the birth in case the hospital food is truly awful

The Basics

  • Packing Cubes! All hail packing cubes. Seriously, these are packing game changers. Buy a set and never deal with chaotic luggage again!
  • Basic toiletries
  • Travel hair dryer. I don’t feel like standing for an hour trying to dry my hair with one of those pathetic hospital/hotel dryers that feels like a small child is blowing on your head.
  • Cozy Socks with gripper soles
  • Slippers with a solid sole
  • Flip Flops
  • Night Gowns x2
  • Loose Jersey PJs for the last day (may not use)
  • Light Jersey Robe
  • Nursing Tanks x3
  • Nursing Bras x2
  • Dark colored, huge undies (so glam!)
  • A basic overnight bag for Dad

Baby’s Bag

  • 1 Going home Outfit
  • 4 Sleepsuits
  • 4 Bodysuits
  • 2 Hats
  • 2 Pair Socks
  • 2 Pair Scratch Mittens
  • 3 Burp Cloths
  • 2 Swaddle Blankets
  • 1 Heavy Blanket
  • 4 Diapers (a small supply for going home)
  • Wipes
  • Nursing cover

The Non-Essentials That Satisfy My Crazy

  • My make-up bag (not full of my usual routine items but basic coverage favorites)
  • The fact that all my packed night gowns/clothing match in some way
  • Carefully planned baby blankets/outfits because again, matchy-match!
  • A flattering, soft jersey midi dress for going home in comfort, ease…and style.

The ‘Will I Need This?’ Stuff  (To Be Left In The Car!)

Do you get the sense that I’m an organization over-achiever?! Every hospital is different. Some will give you everything you need and others will let you fend for yourself for the most part. At least through extensive research on this, that’s the general consensus. So while many moms tell you point blank what not to bring, others have said they weren’t provided with it at all.

This is the stuff I am unsure about and have packed in a tote bag that will stay in the car. If I do need it, my husband can grab it rather than visiting the nearest shops with the world’s most embarrassing shopping list.

  • Extra snacks/drinks in case the hospital food is unbearable
  • Pain relief medication
  • Post-delivery feminine products (this could be a post of it’s own and I won’t go into the gory details)
  • Extra onesies in different sizes. Despite buying newborn and 0-3 months in various brands, they all differ. Some look tiny and others look far too big. I don’t want to take a thousand outfits with me but I would like them to fit baby, whatever size he or she turns out to be. This way I’ll have at least 2/3 outfits that will fit.

The Items I’m NOT Packing

  • My own labor/delivery gown. I 100% plan to deliver baby in the hospital issued gown. I’m vain but not spend $50+ on a designer labor gown vain. An item of clothing that will most likely end up covered in bodily fluids and newborn gunk.
  • A pillow from home. For the same reasons as above and also because there are about 100 of them on the bed I will be in.
  • Athletic Pants. A lot of women suggest yoga pants or some form of comfy pants for after the birth. While I totally agree with the comfort factor, I understand there will be a LOT of checking down there after baby arrives. I will be in no mood to keep wriggling my way out of leggings for my nurse. Nightgowns it is!
  • Hair tools. Straighteners, curling irons etc. Some people recommend them for photos but I don’t see it happening even considering as fussy as I can be with my hair! I’ll be blast drying and curling my hair around a headband to get loose waves for going home day!

WHATS IN MY HOSPITAL BAG

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What ‘ridiculous’ item did you pack and never use?

Even better, what ridiculous item did you pack and actually USE?!

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Little Pumpkin

Autumn is finally, officially here and while everyone’s talking about all pumpkin everything, I’ve been keeping a tiny pumpkin of my own a big secret!

Little Pumpkin Cover

WE’RE HAVING A BABY!

Scott Pregnancy Announcement

Did I get to the point quick enough? I feel like I could burst with relief from keeping it quiet for so long! I agonized for weeks  about whether or not I would announce this on the blog but I figured I would end up posting related articles. It would seem a little strange to suddenly become a ‘mom’ blogger without ever mentioning becoming a mother…

Baby Scott will be making an appearance next Spring. Baby’s photos probably won’t feature on the blog but our adventures undoubtedly will. He or she will be our greatest one of all!

Little Pumpkin

Everything coming our way is very exciting. I have loved everyone’s blog posts that have helped me through this pregnancy so far and given me great advice for the future. I’m pretty excited to become a part of the mom club!

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