I have arrived in the adult world! Now what? While we’re all busy ‘winging it’ daily, have you ever stopped and thought about what a younger version of yourself would do when faced with the trials of adulthood?
It provoked a long thought process, reflecting on the changes in myself over the last 10 years, although I think the most important differences have occurred over the last 2.
I spent my former years waiting for this specific period of time when my life would begin. I could do what I wanted, whenever I wanted and worries would be few. Just typing that last statement made me almost spit out my water! HA! What planet was I living on? If someone would have told me worries would be tenfold and my choices would be even more limited, I would’ve Peter Pan’d it all the way to Neverland!
This social media obsessed generation is throwing out the world ‘adulting’ a lot lately. At first it made me chuckle as I have a penchant for making everything into a verb. But now I’m coming to dislike the word immensely. It’s becoming the ‘I hate Mondays’ of trendy social media jargon.
“Adulting is hard without coffee” // “I can’t even adult today” etc.
It’s losing it’s cutesy, humorous vibe and is now moonlighting as another excuse to complain about how hard life is. It’s ironic really because the theme tune of ‘adulting’ probably isn’t whining. (That’s whining with a ‘h’, not ‘wining’ which is one of my favorite past-times!)
7 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self
- Don’t let others’ opinions of you affect your thoughts/decisions/plans. You know that person who made your life hell in school? So what if they said X about Y? After school you won’t see them again or give them a second thought until passive-aggressively mentioning them in a blog post a decade later!
- Don’t think other people are out to get you. You aren’t the center of the universe and they’re only thinking of themselves. Their actions aren’t personal.
- Do be true to who you are. Integrity is your greatest attribute. Stand up for what you believe in, you cannot please every single person and maintain authenticity simultaneously.
- If something is making you utterly miserable, let it go. Dump the guy, leave the course, quit the job etc. Happiness is everything.
- Shut your mouth. Seriously. If you feel you shouldn’t say something or have nothing good to say about something then do not say it.
- Forgive. Dust the chip off your shoulder, look at the problem/person with fresh eyes and save the grudge for never. Resentment is poison.
- Be prepared for many, many bumps in the road. As prepared as a human being can be. Have flexibility, adaptability, practice forgive and optimism – all those things that seem next to impossible.
But if I knew then, how life would be now I would’ve saved myself many tears and headaches. Resistance to change is a natural human response but my greatest epiphany thus far has been that growing up isn’t necessarily changing, just learning. I wouldn’t be here reflecting on these lessons if I hadn’t been through what I have and handled it as I did.
If you had one word of advice for your younger self, what would it be?